I beat myself up too long for things I’ve done in the past and I get too focused on creating the perfect future that I threaten the present. I’ll admit that this is the one I struggle with most. Thinking too far into the future or dwelling in the past just causes anxiety. And it requires you to let go of the lies you tell yourself about how the world has to be. Moving from a mindset of negativity and scarcity to one of positivity and fulfillment is not easy. When the reality is that we had the power to change the outcome all along. Then when something doesn’t go our way, we use that as fuel because it shows us we were right to think the worst. Our jobs make us miserable which impacts our coworkers and teams. We treat people poorly so we don’t have satisfying relationships. We make those around us walk on pins and needles, uncertain of what will set us off. Rather than try, we don’t apply for the job because we don’t believe we will get it. We sabotage relationships before they have a chance to begin. When our dialogue to ourself is full of hatred, negativity, anxiety, fear, distrust, anger, sadness, bitterness, etc, that becomes our language. The person we spend the most time talking to is….ourselves. We can ALL fall victim to this sometimes. Negativity is a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is something you must practice because we are wired to more easily embrace fear than trust. For every negative thought you have, you combat it with four positive thoughts. What separates the person who feels these things for a moment, or an hour or a day, versus someone who carries negativity with them, is how long they let those thoughts stay. We feel these especially hard when we are in the midst of change or pushing towards a seemingly insurmountable goal. Distrust, however, thrives on anxiety and fear.ĭo we all feel these things sometimes? 1000% yes. Because of this, their patterns generally stay consistent and so they expect to continue the pattern of failure.ĥ) Distrust: trust requires positive thinking and vulnerability. There is no such thing as a happy outcome.Ĥ) Little hope for the future: because the negative nancy likes to sit in this space, they are pretty averse to change. Life, their job, their relationships, dinner, etc. They veil themselves in hostility and avoid vulnerability to ensure there is no chance they can get hurt.Ģ) Anxiety: assuming that the worst is sure to happen, negative nancies are full-throttle anxious most of the time.ģ) Everything sucks: like everything. But when it’s an aura you portray, a negative attitude is usually made up of these key traits:ġ) Lack of confidence: negative people are actually pretty insecure. We all have faults, fears and anxiety at varying levels. It’s exhausting to listen to and I can only imagine how exhausting it is to live in that space all the time. Life is just so terrible and requires a constant stream of complaints. They look for a chance to explode because they are more comfortable with unhappiness and anger than happiness. There is a layer of anger just sitting under the surface. I’ve known a few people in my life who truly felt the universe was against them. What does a negative nancy look and sound like? According to the most reputable online source, Urban Dictionary, a negative nancy is “someone who commonly whines, complains, or looks at the bad side of things.” If this is you or someone close to you, we’re going to understand why this mindset is a killer and how to start changing the dialogue. Even when good things do happen, there is always a “but” attached. Who do you know in your life who just constantly spews negativity? There just seems to be a cloud of darkness that hovers over them and they can rarely see the good in situations.
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